How do you know if you should leave??

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I still love him and look forward to him coming home from work, we have been together 9 years this year no children as of yet I'm not sure, anyway.. but the problems is sometimes I feel like I could be happier with someone else as we don't have many interests ( he guitars I do art) and our sex drives differ he has low drive mine is lot higher is mostly always me that intimates. I had a massive crush on a man at work year or so ago and sometime think of him and I quess what I'm wondering is how do you know you could be happier but at the same time it makes me upset and hurt if I think of leaving as I must still Iove him. I moved jobs to get away from the guy as I was developing stringer feelings, but as of late I'm kind of thinking is this all my life will be it will be as good as it gets with him, I also haven't orgasmd with him in over a year as I'm just feeling stressed sometimes but I do still want sex with him, we still look forward to holidays ( when we can do them) just I keep thinking about the grass being greener, so back to my question I quess how or when did you know the right decision was to leave? Even if it hurts you and makes you upset?? sorry not sure what response I'm after just writing on here to get it out! X🧡

Have you tried talking to him? Maybe he feels the same.

Honestly, chances are the grass is not greener.

It's really hard to find someone you care about who cares about you and who is sane and a nice human being and who you want to have sex with. You have all these things with him so I wouldnt look to give it up on the off chance you might find something better. It's very unlikely.

If it stops working for you and you feel you would be happier single then by all means split.

But as is it sounds like you just need to set some time aside to communicate your feelings and desires with him.

How do you know if you should leave?

If you are asking the question ^

Are you married? Have you communicated how you feel to him?

I think all relationships go through a 'what if?' stage, even the apparently happier than happy ones. More often than not, the grass is not greener. Sometimes when I got very fed up of DH (rare, and very much in the past as we've both matured) it came down to yes we could split and meet other people but the reality is there is no one else I'd rather be with or have even the worst times with.

No one is on the same page all the time, especially in the last year when it's been so difficult for everyone, but only you can answer if you & your DP are reading from the same book. Do you fundamentally still want the same things? Are you both headed in the same direction? Have you even taken time out recently to just be together and enjoy each other? Relationships take work & both of you have to be willing to put that work in.