He was FWB with ex after they split up?

[Snowpranks]

So I’ve met a great guy through friends, things have been going great. He has a 2 year old child with his ex who he seems really involved in raising as he should. We’ve been getting closer and opened up about relationships prior to this. He said it didn’t work out with his sons mother fair enough, then he said they had a weird arrangement after they split up, they were each other’s FWBS.

He admitted they couldn’t stay away from each other in THAT way despite their relationship not working and it just fizzled out. He’s reassured me that nothing like that has happened for a while, and they are completely platonic.

Apart from this it’s been great, he doesn’t understand why I’m uncomfortable with this. I suppose it’s because he felt he needed to tell me this? Like it could always be a possibility?

Run

Sorry I posted too early, I don’t want to not trust him and end it but I also don’t want to feel like I’m always competing?

I wouldn’t be comfortable with that either.

@Snowpranks

Sorry I posted too early, I don’t want to not trust him and end it but I also don’t want to feel like I’m always competing?

But that's how you always will feel.

I did similar with my ex before dh.

It stopped as soon as I met dh.

@1FootInTheRave

I did similar with my ex before dh.

It stopped as soon as I met dh.

Thanks for your input. He said it just fizzled out before I had even met him. It’s probably not even the fact that they were sleeping together, it’s more why he told me. He could of just said nothing

I'd feel uncomfortable dating any man that left his wife before the kid was even two tbh.

Let's be honest, if it was JUST that what they had had fizzled out, you would likely still stay together for the sake of raising the child for a few more years. Because no woman wants to raise a baby alone. It doesn't make sense. Either he's been a right proper shitehead so she got shot or he has flaked out on her and left.

It would make sense if he couldn't be arsed being a dad, went wishy washy and left her but still strong her along by shagging her. That makes sense.

The bs about leaving her with a toddler because it fizzled out, doesn't.

If the kid was 4 and in school, maybe. But a

Why on earth do people on here have such a massive issue with men ending relationships when their dc are babies but tell women on here not to stay in unhappy relationships for the sake of the dc? It's so weird. We don't even know who ended this particular relationship.

OP just ask him why he felt you should have this information.

I did ask him he just said he was being honest. I’ll see how it goes. I’ve never dated a man with children before and wasn’t really sure what the lines of normal are. Thanks for the advice so far.

I don’t think they should of stayed in an unhappy relationship for their child. I think he ended it because he knew she was still in love. The way he frames it was it fizzled out but had said other things.

I think this situation is probably not for me.

If he knew she still loved him then surely it was cruel of him to keep sleeping with her after leaving her, don't you think? Validates the idea that he wanted to be single and not bother his ass with the kid bust still have his cake and eat it, irregardless of how that must have made her feel.

I was FWB with previous boyfriend for a few months after I ended the relationship of several years. Although the relationship didn't work for various reasons there was still a physical attraction and I still loved him and couldn't quite give up on that initially. However once I was out of the relationship for long enough I realised he'd been manipulative and treated me badly in many ways and decided to stop the FWB.

I'm now in a new relationship and have told my new boyfriend about my last relationship and the FWB bit as I wanted to be open and honest with him. He knows it was over completely before we got together and so respects my honesty and trusts me.

So I can see how it happens. If your partner is trustworthy then it's no different to any other previous relationship - if he's not then that's a whole different thing.