feeling a bit useless and lonely

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Hi guys,

I’m not really sure why I’m posting but I’m just stuck in a bit of a rut at the moment.
I’m 24, single and living with my parents. I have a good job, and am doing okay for myself, but I’m just so stuck.

I live with my parents because I want to save money for a deposit. I’m very much single and have had really bad luck with guys recently, I just can’t seem to find anyone who is good for me. I have friends but I don’t seem to have many close ones to do loads of fun things with, and many are settling down and doing their own thing. The group I have are fairly chilled out people who don’t want to go out much or do the kind of things that I want to spend my time doing.
I have started running and other hobbies etc but on my own and I do find it quite boring.

I’m just so unsatisfied and bored at the moment and just feel like I’m doing nothing with my life? I don’t even have a close set of friends to spend time with or meet new people through. I have always wanted to travel but that’s not an option at the moment. Just feel a bit lost ☹️

It sounds like you are doing all the right things OP, but haven't yet met your "tribe". I'm not sure whereabouts you are, but many of us are finding our social lives severely curtailed by pandemic restrictions, and I for one am pretty bored. Just before Covid struck last year, I had started attending some weekly crafting classes, had planned to restart piano lessons and all sorts! Needless to say all these plans are on hold. In your case, if you are also living under restrictions, I bet once they're lifted there would be lots of opportunities to meet like minded people, travel if you want to. I think it is very much to your credit that you have been proactive and started running and other hobbies, and it's completely understandable to want company and a sense of shared purpose and interest when you do them. Have you thought of anything like Sports partner, where you might be able to find a running buddy or similar near you? I have a son your age, and would be incredibly proud of you, the fact that you are saving for a deposit, have tried to kick-start hobbies etc and still get on and do them even if you are bored or lonely. Just keep doing what you're doing, and you'll get there. You are definitely not doing nothing with your life, it's just life, and a bit rubbish for a lot of us.

Thank you @Pantsinthewash what a lovely message 💛 it’s so hard cos I do have friends but not a “group” as such, and they all have their own lives and are settling down. I do most of my hobbies on my own and I’m just getting so bored and feel so lonely. Plus I always fall for the wrong boys as well, I’ve had no luck recently and feel I’ll never find someone 😂 I know it’s hard at the moment for everyone and I feel silly but yeah I’m just so unsatisfied

Look into local running clubs and also park runs. I joined a gym and whilst I tend to go on my own I met one of best friends there last year, I'm also friends with my gym instructor now. I do go running (lockdown has made me) but I like doing it on my own as it gives me time to be with my thoughts, I've had a rough 4 weeks and have found I can go running and have a good cry at the same time, then go back home and get on with things.

I think the past 12 months have changed people's attitudes to going out as well,more people are happy to stay in and have friends round.