Would you cancel this break?

[MoonfacedMilksop]

I had a weekend in a posh hotel booked for last year to celebrate my 10th wedding anniversary but DH and I split at the end of 2019 and then it was cancelled due to lockdown. The hotel has offered to let me use the booking instead for the weekend of 23rd April at a holiday let in the grounds with a private pool, hot tub and sauna but it would be self catering rather than hotel. If I want the hotel they can’t do it at a weekend until 2022 or can fully refund.

I’ve been seeing a lovely man for about 7 months and we decided we’d go together as our first time away. I’ve been really looking forward to it and wouldn’t have anyone else I’d want to go with. We’ve booked a couple of (outside) restaurants and was looking forward to having loadsa really chilled

God I would go on my own and bloody love it.

He said that when he was married his wife would stay in a hotel when he was ill as she couldn’t tolerate it

Bleurgh. I mean, this is very unattractive, no?!

Our health board don't mind date changes, it's no shows that piss them off.
Just change the appt to the next week

That sounds amazing. No way i would miss that opportunity for a vaccine. If reschedule the jap for sure

I have to say when I got the COVID jag 3 weeks ago I did not feel great at all and literally slept that night from early as we as very tired the next 2/3 days and just wanted to sleep. In fact I felt rubbish. My husband was the same although he got over it more quickly. There have been separate threads on here about different reactions to a COVID. Personally I think it’s important he gets the jag and you should cancel and book somewhere else for another date that’s more suitable. It feels the odds are stacked against you for this date.

Crikey. I can't believe people are advocating rescheduling of the vaccine for a weekend break that can be rescheduled.

I really don’t want him to cancel the jab. One of my friends works for a GP surgery and has said it’s an absolute nightmare dealing with the amount of people cancelling multiple times and demanding particular time slots etc.

I don’t want to dump him because he’s a pita when he’s ill. I’ll (hopefully) never have to be around him when he’s ill - I have no intention of ever living with a partner again and I don’t think he ever wants to either. We see each other a couple of times a week and that’s absolutely perfect and all I want at the moment.

Having spoken to him we’ve decided to still go. I’ll go up earlier though as can check in at 3 and just have a few hours to myself before he turns up later. If he is ill and intolerable the cottage has 2 bedrooms so he can stay in one and I’ll just do my own thing.

@HotelCaliforniaOnRepeat

Our health board don't mind date changes, it's no shows that piss them off. Just change the appt to the next week

That's what I would do, it's not as if it would be a last minute change. You can do it online. I had to reschedule my appointments, it was unavoidable; nobody minded or cared.

However the op seems to have sorted out what they are going to do.

If it takes 2 hours and if he's late it's still not that bad, give an extra hour for busy traffic, he'll be there by 7.30 just in time for dinner

I hope the weekend goes well OP. The place sounds lovely and hopefully the new man is too.

In some areas they are asking people to call up and book their vaccine earlier. I would give that a go first.

All this seems like huge overthinking. I wasn’t poorly after my jab. I don’t know anyone who was. Why would he assume he will be? Weird. Plus I changed my date several times easily. Just do it online? Simple. Are you sure he’s not trying to wriggle out of it. They offered me multiple dates at multiple vaccination centres. There were hundreds of slots available. Your post and reasons make no sense.

Really stoopider? Almost everyone I know has been generally under the weather after the AZ jab and both my dm and Dsis were ill enough to have to take a couple of days off work.

He wasn’t given the option to change it online - the letter came from his GP surgery and it said to call only if you genuinely could not make the appointment.

As I said, we’ve sorted it now anyway. There’s really no need to come on threads just to tell people their issues aren’t issues. I was just idly wondering what to do and I don’t really have any friends to discuss it with. It’s really not a big deal.