Dh sometimes goes through phases of tidying up old stuff and throwing it away, doesn't ask if it's anything we need to keep, he just does it, mostly paperwork etc. Background to things - been unhappy for ages, no husband wife relationship for years, I've told him how I feel, he seems content to rumble along. I'm at the point where I want to end things, he doesn't see that there's any problem apart from me being miserable all the time.
I noticed he was moving some stuff from the toys area in the living room, fair enough it needed tidying. But I could see that ds9's homemade cardboard castle was missing so I asked where he'd put it. He said bluntly, "Gone." I looked at him for a few seconds and he could see I was upset, and he just said, "it's been there months, nobody was using it, and I need the space." Then he went on to excitedly show me a chair he was buying online to go in the space and I just had to walk away, I was furious. So then he followed me upstairs to ask why I was 'acting upset' and I just said very calmly that he shouldn't have thrown it out and that I don't throw his stuff away. He said, "yes you do, you threw the box of hair dye away, that cost me 7 quid!" Yes I was cleaning the bathroom a while ago and got rid of some hair dye which had been lying around for at least a couple of years. He then said, "he can just make another one if you're that bothered." Well yes I am bothered! He made it for a competition at school and he was really proud of it. Dh just could not see that the two do not compare, but I'm really upset about it. His film and music stuff lies around taking up space, and I wouldn't dream of throwing any of it out. Am I overreacting? Clearly dh thinks I am. He's been trying to show me chairs (the one he wanted got sold, so all this was for nothing anyway) but I'm not interested, so now I'm getting told off for being miserable. Again. Am I wrong here???