My mother is now pretty much wheelchaire bound and suffers from various illness. This i might add is due to being obese. Throught my childhood i have had to look after my 4 other siblings and had a pretty crap childhood due to her inability to do anything for us due to her size. Very rarely do i ask her to babysit my DD overnight as i know how awkward this is although she has a perfectly capable husband (my stepfather) at home as well as my sister 18.
She rang last week and said to me plan a night out as we will have DD for the night, i get a phonecall yesterday saying they will have her Sunday for a few hours instead my mothers legs playing up. Thankfully my sister has offered to babysit here at home for me instead. I phone my mother clearly a bit pissed off and she says i never ask how she is. I get angry and frustrated that she lets me down constantly and lies through her teeth about things and she wonders why i never ask how she is! Tonight i told her that i never ask as she is always ill and it frankly pisses me off. She could have done something about this a long time ago when she was still able to get herself about.
Am i being unreasonable for being angry at her? As thid is all self inflicted and she has never been able to do motherly things because of her size. I even had to get my DH to come home from a week away in london 4hr drive, once because i fell ill and was unable to look after her and couldn't ask my mother to help me beacuse she was too large to manage the stairs for the loo.
Please tell me if i am being a complete bitch here.