He said he loved me for the first time and I ignored him, what should I do?

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My boyfriend of the past 2 months , (we have known eachother for 7 months) told me he loved me, I climbed in bed with him and woke him up he sat up to adjust his arm to help me get comfy and came out with “I love you you know?” I froze and hugged him and didn’t say anything about half an hour later he said it again in to my ear and I just lay there and didn’t say anything. I haven’t brought it up since, I strongly care for him but I am not in love with him yet but I don’t want to upset him or lose him by not saying it and am just abit worried can someone love you after 2 months, did he mean to say it, my head is just in over drive. What should I do ?

You talk to him.

If you can't have a conversation with the person you are dating, don't date.

This happened to me with my now husband. I wasn't ready to say it either. The next day I just brought it up and said "that thing you said, thank you, I'm not quite ready yet to say it but I'm getting there" or something and then a few months later when I was actually in love with him I said it to him. I wouldn't worry too much, hopefully he will be understanding. it's got to sting a little bit for him, but better than being lied to!

7 months would feel quick to me, too.

You're not there yet and that is totally fine. You need to acknowledge what he says though. Otherwise you're showing him that communicating with you is not the thing to be done.....

Agree, thank him and explain you're happy but not quite ready to say that yet. Much better to acknowledge and explain than essentially ignore which would be hurtful.

Do you have to say anything ?
People get confused with the thrill of a new relationship and getting lots of sex. Don’t commit yourself.

I told my now DH I loved him when we were cuddled up. He froze, then said, 'gosh, that's a big word'. It did make me feel awful but he spoke about it the next day and he explained he had never told anyone he lived them before so it was a major thing for him. A previous boyfriend had said, 'love you' to me early on, turned out it was just a friendly comment as he didn't say I love you, (FFS) so I'd taken it to seriously.
Talk to him, clear the air.

Two months would be way too early for me. Talk to him and tell him the truth.

I strongly care for him but I am not in love with him yet but I don’t want to upset him or lose him by not saying it and am just abit worried can someone love you after 2 months, did he mean to say it, my head is just in over drive. What should I do ?

Talk to him. Tell him this information.

People get there at different rates OP, I wouldn't worry.

I've never been the first to say it in any relationship I've had but I'd think if I did, I'd a) realise that just because my bf didn't feel it yet didn't mean they wouldn't in the future, b) two months is pretty soon anyway, c) it's a good sign that they respected me enough not to say it rather than just mirroring me to be polite/not awkward.

When DP first said it to me I think I pretended I hadn't heard anything and didn't bring it up again. I don't really recommend that but it worked out for us. (He then pretended he hadn't said anything. I said it a few months later.)

My boyfriend told me he loved me quite a few times about 5 months before I felt ready to say it back. But when he told me I would smile and hug him.

No point in saying something like that unless you mean it. But also acknowledging it is important.

Smile, pose say "what's not to love?" Cheesy grin .....you say it in return when you are ready if you get that far