Boyfriend isn’t over ex

[PrincessP1234]

I have had trust issues in past relationships and I think it is getting worse in my current relationship.
My current boyfriend still follows his ex on social media but doesn’t follow me on social media. I know I shouldn’t base a relationship on social media but it makes me feel as though I am not good enough or I am being hidden away. He used the rationale of still following her on social media because he doesn’t want to look like the bad one infront of her family and doesn’t want to be talked about (he said this in the beginning of the relationship)
He used to talk about his ex all the time we spent together until I pulled him up about it and he was very unapologetic. Deep down I don’t think he is over her, I don’t know if I am being unreasonable but it feels as though I am second best to his ex

If you feel like this then end it. Why be with someone who makes you feel anything less than fantastic?

Doesn’t follow you on SM. Is he trying to hide you??

You must be considering leaving surly, this is not how a boyfriend is supposed to treat a girlfriend!!

Your a rebound by the sounds of it.....you can do way way way better!

yeh, odd that he follows her but not you

You have trust issues because you end up with men who can't be trusted..............?

He's a prick. Probably wants you to feel like he isn't over her so that you don't feel 'good enough'. The not recognising you on social media could be to further make you feel insecure about the relationship. So that he holds all the cards. Makes him feel the big man.

I'd sack him off if I were you.

I agree. You need to ditch him.

You don’t have trust issues with this guy. The problem is that he has priority issues. You can’t change that. Don’t waste time that is better spent looking for someone great.

Sounds like you are a secret

I kicked mine out yesterday when I caught him in a a year long emotional affair with his ex. These men are pathetic and we deserve better.

Thank you all for your messages, I do feel as though I am a secret

@Fizzysister I am so sorry to hear that, I hope you are doing okay

He used the rationale of still following her on social media because he doesn’t want to look like the bad one infront of her family and doesn’t want to be talked about (he said this in the beginning of the relationship)

Nonsense.
He follows her because he doesn't want to look bad to her family?

Why would not following her make him look bad. He follows her because he likes to see what she's doing and he's not over her.

He used to talk about his ex all the time we spent together until I pulled him up about it and he was very unapologetic.
Reg flag.

Deep down I don’t think he is over her, I don’t know if I am being unreasonable but it feels as though I am second best to his ex

I think you are. I'd move on...unless he's just a stop gap and is of temporary use to you.

Have you met his friends, any people that know his ex & been introduced as date/ gf...? If not...likely you are a secret. It's not fair, kind or honest of him to treat like this. You need to say your piece & if he can't see what he's doing & beg forgiveness then dump him...or just dump him anyway.

I am ok thanks. I wish I'd ran at the first red flag though... when people show you who they are, pay attention!

@SionnachGlic I’ve met his family and not his friends again another red flag

@Fizzysister that is very true!