Separation - is the grass ever greener?

[2015mommy]

Mum to 1 yr old and 6 yr old, 6 yr old has a disability.

Husband and I argue all the time. Horrible name calling to each other and I’ve stopped looking forward to anything because it will just end in a fight. Been together 16yrs. Not that time matters.

My question is, does life get better after a separation or worse? Few people I’ve spoken to say stay as long as you can.

It gets so much better, but it will take time.
Life is too short to be unhappy & if you are not happy or living your best life, then change it.
I stuck in a very abusive marriage for 16 years. I lost my job & my dad within a few months of each other & thought, this can't be it in terms of what I'm left with, so I started divorce proceedings. I won't deny that it was difficult & our 11yr old DD took it quite badly, but 2 years on, having had 2 years single, I've met an amazing man & genuinely have never been happier.
My only regret is not leaving sooner
The grass isn't always greener but it will be your life, your decisions & your happiness in your hands & that will be so
Much better than an unhappy life with regrets
Good luck - everyone deserves respect & happiness

IME you are poorer - in terms of time and money - but being in your own, peaceful home, making all of your own decisions, coming and going as you like, no stress or fear of his moods, is truly wonderful. After the dust settled, I remember driving home from work to my own place, really happy, singing actually, and I realised that I was looking forward to going home for the first time in years.

I always think that you have a duty to try everything to fix your relationship when children are involved but if you're beyond that I'd advise getting out and not wasting any more years.

@rawlikesushi .. could not agree more 😊