I ended my 3 year long distance relationship with my fiance because of his constant ignoring me for days when he didn't feel like talking which led to me being stressed anxious and worried. I just couldnt cope with it anymore.
He said he fully understood why I'd done it and he was sorry. He then reached out a week later and said he didnt want to lose me so we spoke but he still avoided the issue of what the problem was. I asked if I could send him a letter explaining my feelings and he said yes it would do us both good. So I sent my letter saying that when he ignores me it hurts me and upsets me so much and I need it to stop if we are to carry on. He said my letter made him see himself differently and he needed to think.
Fast forward a week and he sent a message yesterday saying the man I describe in my letter is shallow and selfish and hes never seen himself that way and if I think that of him I should be glad to be rid of him. Today he has sent more messages saying I've broken his heart and being quite horrible about it all! He has completely failed to mention the whole point, which is that he ignores me. No explanation of why, no apologies or saying he will stop doing it, just blaming it all on me for speaking up. It's like he doesnt want to admit hes done anything wrong and turned it all around to make me look like the bad person. I explained earlier that all it would take is for him to say he knows hes wrong for doing it continuously and he will change for the sake of our relationship but he either can't or wont and now I feel I've done something wrong by saying anything in the first place.
Please can anyone make sense of this, why would someone rather lose someone they love than admit they've hurt them and try and sort it out?
Have I done something wrong? Please be honest.