Feel so alone after marriage ended

[LittleBlueToday]

I split with my ex last year, and this month started divorce proceedings and they have left me feeling a bit battered and broken. Not helped by the fact that it’s dredging up a lot of stuff I’d been working on and healing from.

I’ve also realized that all of my ex’s issues stem from the fact that he probably has undiagnosed ADHD. For years I just couldn’t understand why he was so chaotic, found it impossible to focus on certain tasks and generally needed a lot of help with certain things that most adults can do fairly easily. Ever since we broke up things have seemed so easy for him. He went out partying lots and now he’s in a new relationship and they just moved in together. Everything is going well for him, whereas for me, I just feel so depressed and alone. I’ve gone on countless dates and just feel nothing. And I keep punishing myself for ending things too. I keep thinking that I should have stayed and supported him.

Maybe it’s to soon for dating for me just yet, but has anyone else had to go through this - leaving someone for their unreasonable behavior, only to see them jump into a new relationship almost instantly? It feels like it’s just made everything so much harder.

Its still early days. He has jumped into a new relationship as men often do (its harder for men to be without a woman than other way round) but it may not all be rosy for him anyway.

Even though you ended the marriage it is still hard and you have stuff to work through, the grief and sadness of it all. It does get better with time, the key is recognising you’ll have sad days and wonder whether you did right thing. You did, you were clearly very unhappy.

Keep yourself busy, and think about yourself and what you want from life, dont date too soon.

When my marriage ended it was devastating I thought I would never get over it, but it was actually the making of me and I’ve never looked back.

Be kind to yourself and keep moving and looking forward.