I know people say change things, or put up with it, or stop moaning, but I have tried to get my not-so-d p to help more and he still doesn't seem to get it. I've tried talking reasonably, moaning, setting rules... he just carries on. I think the relationship is over anyway, just having problems getting him to accept that and move out, but in the meantime he makes me so mad!
His work means sometimes he does have long days, other times he only has to be in for a few hours.. so he sometimes doesn't get up till 9 or even later, or might get home lunchtime / early afternoon.
He will never get up before he has to, does absolutely no housework - cannot even pick up his dirty clothes from the floor, or return dirty dishes to kitchen. Prefers to sit upstairs watching films or sleeping to spending time with dd. He is meant to get up 1 morning at weekend to look after her - it's taken over 1.5 years, but he has now managed to go to a dad's thing on Saturday mornings - he still doesn't get up til 9, still moans about it, and seems to think that being out for about 2 hours with her is a big deal, he can then spend rest of weekend doing as he pleases. Goes out lots in the evening etc etc.
Even when he's out with her, I still have things to do round the house. I don't work at the moment, but I do think he should be sharing taks at the weekend a bit more at least.
Then when he does have a moment for me or dd, he expects me to be happy and sweet and loving, and want to do what he wants.
Grrrr... sorry, just wanted to get it all my chest, as he thinks I'm just an unreasonable nagging moaner (probably right by now!)
Right - back to cooking, cleaning etc, so I'm ready to take childcare back for the next 6.5 days.....