Is it me....

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My DH really gets on my wick at times! Always telling me ive not bought the right thing eg food item, or cant mow the grass as i wont do it right, or cant hoover as i miss bits on the carpet. Its like im always on edge when doing things that they wont be right or ever good enough...exhausting. Is it me or is he being unreasonable?

Let the miserable bastard do it himself, you can put your feet up

I'm torn as I like things done properly or not at all. My ex husband used to do all jobs badly including the garden so I ended up doing everything myself as well as working full time. It was exhausting but I cant stand living in a tip. Does he actually do any of these jobs himself or does he just moan about how you do them?

I do things properly. I dont do a bad job just to get out of doing them again. I like to do equal housework but it feels like he has to pick at something.

What do you say to him when he picks at you? Is it different standards or is he just negative to and about you overall?

My ex used to make me feel incompetent and nothing was ever good enough. It slowly chips away at you.

If the relationship is overall good, it might be worth trying to reset the way he speaks to you, through counselling or calling him out on it every time. If it's the tip of an ice-berg, consider splitting.

Yes it slowly chipping away at me!! Feels to me like were just existing for the kids really. We get on- some days good/some days bad. Ive mentioned it a few times and picked him up on it when he says it but he turns it round to say i do the same to him, which i know i dont.

Mine watches me reverse into the drive. Been driving over 34 years. I can sodding do it. He's had more accidents and dents in his car than I can count. Gets on my nerves watching and pulling faces. Just f**k off back inside.