Can guys think like this?

[ElishaP]

I’m dating this guy on and off for about 2 years now. I love being in his company and so does he. For a year now I have not been contraceptive as it doesn’t agree with me. And we had been having sx for a year with our it and never became pregnant. But now I have been tracking carefully for three months now and each time he had came around it’s always been near my ovulation or on my ovulation. I don’t know if he is purposely trying to get me pregnant or what??? On my ovulation date I had stop him in mid stream and made an confirm that I’m not on the pill but he said don’t worry and carried on the pulled out. But I think his up to something. As I haven’t heard from for 2 and half weeks after that happened. Please what advice can someone give.

I not sure if you are thick or winding us up here tbh.

Reading that back, it actually sounds like you are well aware you might get pregnant and maybe want to , and are wondering if he secretly feels the same.
We can’t tell you that. But having a baby, without the conversation coming up first , is a stupidly bad idea

You’re probably a troll but anyway
I don’t think 99% of guys have a clue about ovulation or have any interest in knowing about it. I think you’re deluded if you think he’s planning this to get you pregnant
Is he just seeing you every two weeks for sex? Does he see you in between? If he doesn’t see you in between, you aren’t in a relationship and it’s just a sex thing fullstop.
Do you want to be pregnant? Do you want to a single mum?

No he's not doing it deliberately. You are.

Stop lying to him and yourself and just ask him if he's up for donating sperm to you and would he be prepared to pay maintenance. You'll probably never see him again if he's got any sense.

@sashh

I really don't think most blokes are hugely aware of when women are most fertile, even if they do know when you're on.

Not consciously but men find women more attractive when they are most fertile.

I think this is true, I have always ended up having more (protected) sex when I'm ovulating or just before. DH is definitely more likely to initiate at that time.

NAMALT

Reproductive coercion is a thing.

There are loads of sites out there telling men how to sabotage birth control.

Some men have fetishes about making women pregnant.

Some men think it's harder for women to leave them if the woman gets pregnant.

I'm not saying that this is happening, but it's not unheard of.

I think, more importantly, you need to look at the relationship overall. If you can't agree on something like this, then it doesn't look good for the rest of the relationship.

You may also like to let him know that you will be taking the morning after pill if necessary. You may also like to discuss his attitude to abortion. You may get a sense of what is going on that way, and if it is an issue.

This is a FWB not a relationship.
YOU are trying to get you pregnant.

Take responsibility here, femidom, coil, cap ...

For goodness sake, it sounds to me like you want to get pregnant, and you are looking for some kind of confirmation that he would be ok with it

That's also what I thought, another reality avoidant fantasist. 🤦‍♀️