I have had bad gut feelings about my DH’s behaviour towards other women for years, only thing is I can never get to the bottom of any of it. He is very secretive, passwords for his phone and computer etc.
But how do I find out for sure if anything was ever going on?
*When first married he used to leave for work really early as he said that he had to attend 1-1 meetings with woman at work. After each supposed meeting I would receive an anonymous phone call at home.
*His phone pinged with a message one day that said, “Hi (DH name). How are you and how is work? Just messaged to let you know that the bump is still a bump. From (name) When I asked him about it he said it must be a wrong number and he doesn’t know anyone called (name).
Refused point blank to discuss it further.
*Had to pick him up from his work one night. Let him take the drivers seat. A dark haired woman appeared coming out of the office opposite where we were and he shouts, “Oh shit!” and steps on the accelerator for a speedy get away. Asked him what he was doing. I was imagining it apparently.
*Out on a works night out, wanted me to collect him but not from the place. It had to be from some distance away, to save me bother?!?
*At a New Year party with friends. The bells rang at midnight and everyone’s DH or DP was giving their OH’s an embrace and a kiss except me as my DH had his arms around the only single female there and giving her a New Year kiss.
*Kept mentioning a new receptionist at work and commenting how much he liked her long white hair. Then when I had to go to his work to drop off something he had forgotten I noticed that as he was going past her she was about to be all over him till he gestured that I was across the road watching and she was immediately cross with him and looked daggers at me.
*I was looking out of the upstairs window at home. Husbands head was in the car bonnet sorting something. Next door neighbour (woman) comes over to speak to him but sticks her head right up next to his and whispers in his ear. He doesn’t move or look round just carries on. WTF?
*I notice looks passing between my DH and hostess at party with friends. Later she is looking out of the window and sighs, “Oh (DH name)” Other friend says, “Did you just say (Oh name)?) “No!” Says she.
*On holiday. DH’s phone rings. It’s his best friend’s DP. She is muttering on about coming up to meet my DH and he says, “Name (me) is sitting right next to me on the sofa” Phone call ends abruptly.
There are loads more examples but too numerous to mention.
What do you think Mumsnetters? All of these things suggest to me that my DH is a womaniser but he just refuses to discuss any of it and thinks I am being unreasonable and making mountains out of molehills.