Has anyone gotten thru a difficult time with their husband?

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My husband and I are going through a horrible time, in part exacerbated by covid. He is now seeing a therapist weekly to try and sort out his anger issues but his behaviour is such a strain on me every day and our home is not what I thought my maternity leave for my very longed for ivf baby would be like.

Can anyone share any stories of you working through such problems, how long it took and how things are now? I would love some positive stories!

Thank you 🙏🏼

Quick name change for this.

Yes, DH and I have been through hell together.

He is an alcoholic, also loves a bit of coke from time to time. He has periods of sobriety and then relapses. Has been to rehab, AA etc. He has therapy now to help but it's not bullet proof. His long periods of sobriety are very happy. His trigger is work stress.

We experienced infertility and spent thousands and thousands on IVF only to end up with our son being stillborn. More IVF, more money, ended up get DD. And then subsequent DD2. It was a very very hard time. I still well up now when I think of stillborn DS.

DH is self employed and I'm sahm. A few years ago his business collapsed and we lost everything, including our house. It was a horrific time. We're still not as financially comfortable as we used to be several years on but we're getting there.

Some days are very very dark. But overall it's a positive marriage and we create a positive environment to raise our DDs. But we both have to want it and work at it.

Thank you so much for sharing, I’m so sorry this has happened to you and I appreciate you taking time to tell me that overall despite this it is still positive!

Yes we went through a horrid tough time, and came out the other side, but I'm not entirely sure that I have some regrets. I really enjoyed being on my own for the months we had apart.

Sometimes I'm just sick and tired of compromising. And always being the one to give in to keep the peace, when actually I want to say fuck off and stay there. If there are issues, and deep rooted ones, it feels like you're papering over the cracks for a quiet life. If that makes sense.

going through a really difficult time too also not helped by Covid/lockdown.My OH has anger issues too, normally diluted by having busy lives but i'm also wondering how long I can keep doing this.Its all just such a strain

I'm a widow but, yes, husband and I did go through some bad times. The worst one was when he first went into business and it went bust. He was so demoralised and upset, which I understood but we had different ideas about how to deal with it all. It was as if we were pulling in different directions. He kept on saying it could have worked and 'if only', I accepted how things were and had a plan which he thought was naive.

It was a very difficult time, we nearly lost everything and I became quite ill.

However, we got through. We climbed out of the abyss and ended up OK. I feel sad that he isn't around to enjoy the fruits of his success. He was a lovely man.

Life is hard sometimes but........things work out.