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Missing my easy life and not necessarily ex DH

7 replies

regmar · 01/04/2021 22:19

Got divorced after 18 years when kids were older.
Bored, menopausal, no sex for two years .

It's been a year since divorce but it's only now I'm wondering if I've made a massive mistake as the grass definitely doesn't seem greener

I'm with someone else but the novelty of that is wearing off so I'm just wondering if anyone else has had post divorce blues and regretted leaving a boring but relatively easy marriage ?

OP posts:
Ardvark111 · 01/04/2021 22:38

Hi mans pov here, no real advice but.. rship experts say we should be alone for 1 month for every year of a rship breakup., my ex went into 3 rships very quickly after a long term non marriage but all 3 fizzled out, i took my time ( many years alone ) and now in a happy rship.
your being very honest 're the grass is not greener comment.!! It's ultimately upto you how you move forward with new rship. Good luck

Cockenspiel · 01/04/2021 22:40

Did you get into the new relationship quickly after split?

Sounds like you probably need to be single for a while and just be on your own to work out what you want really.

Livandme · 01/04/2021 22:56

Wasn't married quite that long but do understand your thinking.
I am not with anyone and do feel very lonely at times but I did also feel lonely when I was with H.
I definitely don't miss him but do miss having the freedom to just pop out when I fancy and constantly being bad cop to the dc.
Think lockdown scenario hasn't helped.

EL8888 · 01/04/2021 22:57

Really? I found life way easier after l split from my 1st husband. But my exh was lazy and hard work. Not having to run around after him was like a holiday! Maybe you need more time to adjust to your new life?

Branleuse · 01/04/2021 23:00

Maybe you just need to be on your own for a bit.

Sakurami · 01/04/2021 23:15

Just because the relationship with the man you're with now seems to have also run its course, doesn't mean that you shouldn't have gotten divorced. I don't believe that such a long marriage breakup was a quick and easy choice. It's not an either or situation.

Be happy on your own and don't settle with someone you're not happy with. Enjoy it until it stops being enjoyable.

coronaway · 02/04/2021 00:36

Why not just stay single and do life solo?

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