My bf of 2 years was made redundant a few weeks ago. Obvioudly we knew it was coming but it still felt pretty brutal. We don't live together and both divorced with children.
Hes been very busy applying for jobs, which is great. He's very aware he may lose his home if he doesn't find anything soon (I've also said he could stay with me if he needed to). I'm trying to be very supportive. He seems to be glad of my support, he messages every day and phones when I'm on a break at work, we talk for up to an hour each day on the phone, mostly about his applications but some other chat too. He asks me what I think of each job he's applied for etc.
A couple of times he's seemed very stressed/depressed and I've offered to have my mum look after my kids so I can visit him (he lives 45 minutes away). He's ignored the offers. I've seen him less than I used to (his choice) but wasnstill once a week or so, but generally initiated by me.
However, we've reached a point where we have no 'plans' to see each other. He's not taken me up on my offer to see him last week, this week, next week. I'm understanding, he's in a horribly stressful situation and finding work is most important. However, I'm finding it odd that he doesn't want to see me in person, particularly when he does seem to want to talk to me a lot on the phone. Obviously I'm very worried about him and his mental health. I've made it clear that I'm here for him whenever he needs me, by phone or in person, there is no pressure.
He knows that if I see him I'll happily make dinner, I'm a relaxing person etc and we can talk through jobs/finances as much as he wants to (as we do on the phone most days). Does it seem unusual for someone to shut themselves off like this? What more can I do? As I say, to a large extent I let myself be guided by his communication, I respond when he contacts me and I check in casually at least once a day if he's gone quiet. He has mild aspergers which may also influence his response a bit.