Do your partners get jelous when your off with the children?

Ilovecaravaning · 2021-03-31T10:35:10+00:00

Oh is always been like this, Im off as its half term here an ive taken the children out to the park an he is making comments saying oh you’ve been living the life of leisure while ive been in work Really pisses me of that he’s jelous or something

Heartofstrings · 31/03/2021 11:36

Husband used to get a little envious that he couldn't do all the lovely things with the boys but these days he just views work as a break

StephenBelafonte · 31/03/2021 11:43

What does he organise for the kids when he's off?

singlewhitederail · 31/03/2021 13:01

My exh did . He would lie in until
We got up and then stay on late st work at the end of the day as he felt it unfair that I was off and he wasn't . Leaving it until late to come
Home meant he did sfa with the kids , but he had no interest in family life anyway .
Lazy, entitled and useless man.
Disappointed to be going back to work after restrictions as he is getting benefits and doing nixers now but can't pay maintenance either .
Well rid👋

tiktok · 31/03/2021 13:05

He sounds lovely, OP.....[eye roll]

FFS, why shouldn't you go to the park? What does he want you to do? Take your laptop with you so you can work there? Or an iron and ironing board so you can do his shirts?

Jeez.

Basicbitching · 31/03/2021 13:06

Mine is glad if I take the dc out and he has the house to himself but if he's at work he's never seemed jealous, just says 'that's great hope you all had fun' etc..

mindutopia · 31/03/2021 13:27

No, because dh shares enough of the load of the childcare that he knows that a day off with the dc is actually quite a lot of work. Usually we would both prefer to be at work as it's much more relaxing! It sounds like maybe you need to trade and he needs to do some of the wrangling of the children on his days off from work.

Bananalanacake · 31/03/2021 14:00

Point out that you are looking after your children and he can also.

MindyStClaire · 31/03/2021 14:37

@mindutopia

No, because dh shares enough of the load of the childcare that he knows that a day off with the dc is actually quite a lot of work. Usually we would both prefer to be at work as it's much more relaxing! It sounds like maybe you need to trade and he needs to do some of the wrangling of the children on his days off from work.

Exactly this. I read the thread title out to DH and got the predicted response of HAHAHAHA.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 31/03/2021 14:39

@mindutopia

No, because dh shares enough of the load of the childcare that he knows that a day off with the dc is actually quite a lot of work. Usually we would both prefer to be at work as it's much more relaxing! It sounds like maybe you need to trade and he needs to do some of the wrangling of the children on his days off from work.

Agreed same here- left our DC with him enough that he knows it’s exhausting! He doesn’t quite emphasis with nighttime breastfeeding but doubt I can teach him that one

QforCucumber · 31/03/2021 14:41

No, I am a tad envious as next week DH is off for the week with our 5 year old and 9 month old, then I remember its not a day off and he will be run ragged by the time I get home from work and if anything I'll have had the more relaxing day

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/03/2021 14:43

Why doesn’t he take time off to be with him? How often does he do that? How many things does he plan for them to do?

Flashblip · 31/03/2021 14:50

Yep, I get this "you and DD do so much together with out me" that's because I take time of work to go out and play with our daughter you dick head, but then he wouldn't do anything with her alone it would have to be as a family and only as a family, which pisses me off even more because there is not a day goes by that I'm total alone,

GrumpyHoonMain · 31/03/2021 14:51

It does depend on what you do with your dc. DH always gets jealous when DS and I have any kind of alone time because we have picnics in the garden, go to the local playground, and I’ll teach him how to do things (currently teaching him how to pick flowers) - he really enjoys being with me. But DH doesn’t do these things - he just shoves DS in a puschair and walks until he falls asleep lol.

jessstan2 · 31/03/2021 15:00

Mine was never jealous about things like that, neither was I jealous of him if he had time off.

Love51 · 31/03/2021 15:01

Not that he mentions. I prefer days with the children to days at work though, and he's got a pass to the national trust (free through work) which they exploit. I'm a bit envious, but not in a bad way.

WaterBottle123 · 31/03/2021 15:05

Do you work OP?

NerrSnerr · 31/03/2021 15:07

Mine doesn't- but we share the school holiday childcare so he gets plenty of time off with the children too. I'm always pleased when he takes them to the park the day before I have a day off so I can get out of it the next day!

VettiyaIruken · 31/03/2021 15:08

Is he jealous because you get to spend time doing fun stuff with the children and he would love to do more with them?

Or is he jealous as in making snide comments because he doesn't value what you do?

Would he prefer you don't take the children out?

Original poster

Ilovecaravaning · 31/03/2021 16:54

I work term time
He doesn’t plan things with the children he never takes them out he will come with us as a family if i plan so something or sometimes he wont if it’s a weekend sometimes I just take them,
He wouldn’t book time off to look after them because he doesn’t get paid holidays he only takes time off if we are going on holiday

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Shoxfordian · 31/03/2021 17:13

He sounds pretty useless really