Separated from H, he lives next door though in what used to be a holiday cottage which is now a separate residential dwelling. He was horrible tonight yelling abuse and wouldn't let me leave like physically cornered me and screaming in my face.
I've just got a job and I think he knows his control is slipping so he's using childcare as a way to control me. Really would rather not have to deal with him at all but children.
Accuses me of all sorts, apparently I'm scheming and manipulative and lacking in conscience. He said he should kill me and the children would go to care and they'd have the same prospects as being with me. Thing is when the children were smaller I was so ground down by him that I was suicidal. Not anymore I think because I'm emotionally detached.
He's actually really manipulative himself and is always planning so many moves ahead. I assume he will now either try to fuck up my new job for me; or insist I sign over assets to demonstrate I'm not a scheming golddigger :). Make sure I'm poor and desperate I suppose.
I had hoped we could be amicable but I think I'm going to need to sell the house to get some space. I've just got myself a cheapie car and was really looking forward to starting work now I'm full of twitchy adrenalin.
Tomorrow I'm going to contact Womens aid and record his threats against me. Then I'm going to let my job coach at the DWP know that I've suffered domestic abuse. That way if he does cost me my new job I think I won't be sanctioned.
www.gov.uk/government/publications/domestic-violence-and-abuse-help-from-dwp/help-available-from-the-department-for-work-and-pensions-for-people-who-are-victims-of-domestic-violence-and-abuse
I just don't really know what else to do; I could call the police but I don't think I'd get anywhere as he didn't hit me. I think I'd just aggravate him and he's unpleasant enough as it is.