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Dh to me “I hate your voice”

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fortifiedwithtea · 30/03/2021 16:39

My response , well if you don’t like my voice you shouldn’t have married then , should you?

Tbf I have a terrible voice, I am very self conscious of it. Strong East London accent, its high pitched and wobbly. Worse when I am stressed so 90% of the time and has got worse with age, mid fifties.

Still a nasty thing to say though even if it is true. Think I would be more upset if it was a one off but its not.

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Aprilshowersandhail · 30/04/2021 16:20

Call me petty but I would do my upmost to never speak to the nasty fucker again. Leave notes..

Frymetothemoon · 30/04/2021 16:25

Poor you, he sounds horrible, picking on you for something you can't control. Do give yourself a break, in whatever way you can. If you really can't separate, then I hope you are at least not having a physical relationship any more.

RantyAnty · 30/04/2021 16:46

It's good you reached out for some support.

There will be ways to leave if that's what you want. Do you get any disability pay? You'd likely get a larger share of the assets since you have DC. Have you considered any WFH jobs in something like customer service? Many have flexible hours where you could start with 1 or 2 half days a week to see how it goes.

See if your DH can give you a few hours of rest this weekend.

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fortifiedwithtea · 06/05/2021 00:54

Update:

I did spent a long weekend with my mum. Long so that DH would have to deal with getting DD2 to school on his own. Weekend was bliss except for when DH phoned and sounded off his rocker. I got off the phone shaking.

Got home to a pile of washing up. It struck me how dirty the house is.

Without explaining too much DD1 and her partner are no longer sleeping in the house.meaning we see a lot less of them. Now I realise how big a strain its been for DH having daughter’s partner living with us the past 2 years. The house feels so much more relaxed.

I have told DH that I have noticed he is talking to me much more and only bitten my head off once this week. Still got a lot of problems but it would be very outing to mention those. But I have got some strength back and am coping better.

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 07/05/2021 20:03

I'd have said something petty like 'well I hate your ugly face but here we are' but that's me. What a mean thing to say to you xx

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