Where do I even start. I was originally going to post this in parenting thread but it's not really parental advice I need. I wanted to ask what morals or boundaries you set for children who are old enough to understand. I'm asking because my partner has shoddy morals. Examples are, and setting for his children Inc, life works on a tit for tat basis, they were having a moment when oldest wasn't listening to him so in return he says he won't listen to the child. Oldest doesn't do as he's told so he won't do anything for the child. If someone won't help you, you shouldn't help them. Another one is about earning respect, we give respect when it's earned, because our boy won't listen or does what he's asked he has no respect it will have to be earned back yet partner will swear or get annoyed very easily. Another is about money, when our boy acts up if he can't get a game or a gamepass or sweets etc, he says your must work hard for what you have or want (more to do with the future thinking and adult life) but this is very contradictive since partner doesn't work or earn for what he has. He has all sorts of morals and boundaries that just seem shoddy to me. I try to intervene but he can be quite passive aggressive saying to child 'have it then I'm not being the bad guy because you can't get what you want'. I don't give in to our boy I just try to explain to parter you can't implement ideas and boundaries if you don't do them also. Same with respect he gets angry and annoyed quickly and swear so I understand why our child has no respect. I'm at my wits end with telling them both to stop bickering, like they just don't get on, I don't know what to do