NC for this.
I went on my first 'date' today in 10 years where I feel there's some hope. But I'm scared to get carried away.
For context: I was married for 8 years to ExH who was narcissistic and I experienced EA - but didn't realise until after I'd left. I'm no shrinking violet but I just didn't see what was right in front of me. That was 15 years ago. I dated on and off for a couple of years and then got into a relationship with 'the love of my life'. It ended after 3 years (long story) and was a very painful ending. That was 10 years ago. Since then I've gone on a handful of dates and have struggled to get the energy to care about making an effort - life (single parent of 1) got in the way. Fast forward to now.
I started chatting to X on OD during lockdown 3 and have had three Zoom 'dates', which went very well, and lots of Whatsapping and email exchange over last 2 months. Today we met for a socially distanced walk. I had low expectations for today as I've been in the situation before where there's chemistry online and it just doesn't translate into real life. Well...he completely exceeded my expectations. For the first time in a loooooong time I feel like there could be something in this, but I feel like I'm punching above my weight (he was super cool). He's everything I'm looking for (personality / looks / attitude to life) and I've come home absolutely buzzing.
Now the crunch...I know very little about him really, and I have no idea whether he's also talking to other people still on OD.
Please tell me all the things I need to think about so that I don't get carried way!