Ex and facebook

[HipsterHippo]

My recent ex and I are no longer fb friends, however he is still friends with members of my family.
I asked him to delete them as well and he said he would but he hasn't. I don't get why he wants to keep a link with them when he doesn't want to with me?

I realise I sound about 12 years old moaning about Facebook but I'm hurting and confused

I don't think it's mean to not have an issue with your family and friends keeping in touch with your ex. I do think it can sometimes be mean asking them to choose.

I do understand that you are hurt by the split OP and I'm sorry you're going that through that. Maybe gently explaining to the people you are closest to how this is making you feel will give them a nudge. Remember lots of folk don't pay much attention to Facebook and won't even have remembered or noticed that they are still friends with the ex on there, so it's not always a reflection on how they feel about you.

@Daydrambeliever

I don't think it's mean to not have an issue with your family and friends keeping in touch with your ex. I do think it can sometimes be mean asking them to choose.

I do understand that you are hurt by the split OP and I'm sorry you're going that through that. Maybe gently explaining to the people you are closest to how this is making you feel will give them a nudge. Remember lots of folk don't pay much attention to Facebook and won't even have remembered or noticed that they are still friends with the ex on there, so it's not always a reflection on how they feel about you.

It's mean to make OP feel like she's being in reasonable when in actual fact she isn't.

If anyone feels bad having to choose between their family member or friend and their ex, they're not worth having really are they.

Or they just don’t want to get involved in petty drama? I’ve known of people to break up with an ex get everyone to stop talking to them only to get back with them and then it’s awkward for everyone who was told not to speak to them! Some people just want to stay out of the drama

There's a big difference between "staying friends with" or choosing the ex over the OP on the one hand and not deleting from FB and liking the odd status on the other. The former a good friend wouldn't do, the latter I feel is reasonable if there wasn't any abuse or cheating involved.