You don't get hurt so much with members of family that don't make any effort as we couldn't meet anyway. My in-laws in particular have never made an effort ever with my dc, they are young grandparents so no reason for them not to but we have always had to make the effort, never done anything. Anyway, restrictions are opening up and got a message to say we will have to pick up Easter Eggs else dc won't get them in time for Easter! They don't want to see the children they just want someone to pick them up. We live 10mins away from them and they could actually meet us outside and see the grandchildren. DH says they've always been the same, same to the other grandchildren, we just have to accept that they are like they are..
Anyway what I'm trying to say is, I've not had to worry about having to make effort with people or have a fear of getting hurt during lockdown and now all the feelings are returning.
By the way I've tried sooo hard over the years with people I really have but hard when you get nothing back.