DH and I have decided to separate. Have 2 young DC.
It’s currently feeling unbearable living together. He is constantly angry with me and no boundaries about coming in to my room any time of evening for intense conversations. Sometimes I just need space and am not up for that some evenings. I never know when he’s going to come into me and start. The other morning he was talking about divorce in front of our 6 year old and made him late for school. He can’t hold back. It’s not abuse but I need to get out of living with him. I’m beginning to feel panic attack at the thought of him walking in the front door. But I can’t afford to rent somewhere unless we use our joint finances. His salary is almost 4x mine but he refuses to move out although he does want to separate. He wants to stay in the family home and me move out.
I’m low earner. Work part time, quite low income, I spent 5 years at home with the children.
We’d need to sell our house or let DH buy me out. We will look at getting a separation agreement. However even then I doubt I could afford to rent a place big enough for me and the 2 children especially if local to their school. (We own house outright. I’ll eventually use that equity to buy new place but need to live apart from DH before then).
Feeling really stuck, emotionally I need to get out in the next few weeks — any ideas?