Can you help me understand this please

[OverTheRainbow88]

So I haven’t thought about this in years until I saw the person it involved a few weeks ago and it doesn’t quite sit right.

When I was younger I lived near some livery yards; there wasn’t much to do so I used to hang around there a fair amount. I was about 14 and a lady who had a horse there her fiancée was always there to.

I don’t know how it happened but we used to message, and he used to collect me from school at lunch time to go for lunch or a smoothie etc. We went to a few bars together; he would always collect me and drop me home.

I was 14, he was 32. Now nothing romantic as such happened, I don’t think we even kissed but this went on for about a year. It stopped when I heard his fiancée at the stables mention he’s going out a lot and she’s not sure who with.

I struggle to understand it if I’m being honest; I hadn’t given it much thought until I saw him with a daughter who looked about 5 and made me wonder.

This seems inappropriate and as a teacher now if a 14 year old told me this I would be concerned. But nothing sexual happened. Weird! Any thoughts?

You’re not sure if you kissed?
Certainly odd behaviour and not quite right.

Who stopped it?

Have you potentially blocked memories of abuse? It's very odd to say you can't remember if he kissed you or not. I would say he was definitely grooming you at least.

@joystir59

I have, but from when much younger.

I stopped it after I heard the comment from fiancée, I guess it made me think it wasn’t right

You were a child and he was taking advantage of you. It was completely inappropriate, and he was almost certainly grooming you.