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Feel angry and let down

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Saphira1308 · 26/03/2021 16:57

I reported my ex partner on 4th feb for sexually abusing me on numerous occasions three of those occasions was 6th June last year and 3rd and 4th Jan this year, a week later I did my video interview of what happened and as much detail that I could and yesterday the police officer in my case rang me at lunch time to say that they 're not carrying on with the case as there is no t enough evidence and that when my ex had his interview he denided it even though I had recorded in my journal them 3 dates and a text messages between myself and my ex on 1st Sept last year confronting him and th at police know that he been reported for sexual abuse a number of times previously by other people. It took me along time to have the courage to even tell anyone about it let alone report it to the police as I felt it was my fault it happened and that maybe I did something to deserve it. I feel like my heart has been ripped out knowing that he got away with it again and that I'm angry , hurting and feel completely let down by the justice system that he walking around free while I'm going to have to live with what he did to me for rest of mylife.

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lolaflores · 26/03/2021 16:59

My only thought is contacting rape crisis. Have any other women reported him. Are there accusations on file against him?
I feel this is the reason so many women to report.

lolaflores · 26/03/2021 17:00

Did he admit anything in thebtext

Saphira1308 · 26/03/2021 17:09

Iolaflores he did not admit it in the text and to my knowledge now there is at least 2 other people that had reported him for it that is on file with police from where he from before I even met him and that my case is staying on file aswell. It does make me feel why did I even bother reporting him with it ending like this especially as it took me so long to get the courage together to actually report him.

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cryh · 26/03/2021 17:11
Flowers

I agree contact Rape Crisis if only for support for you. Completelyunderstandable that you feel let down and angry.

lolaflores · 26/03/2021 18:28

Wrfe any physical photos swabs etc taken? Did u see a nurse or doctor for an exam? How far did the police go to collect physical evidence?
It is so so disheartening and enragingnwhen the pressure is on you to seemingly prove a case against him especially when he has done this before.
I really think Rape criss will help you with recovery from the attacks mentally and emotionally.

Saphira1308 · 26/03/2021 19:01

Iolaflores he had forced me to perform oral sex act on him, there was no mouth swabs or physical photos taken as the day I reported him was not on the days that it had happened so they was not able to do any mouth swabs and there was no physical photos taken as he forced me to do the sex acts by using threats against me, all they could go on is the text on my phone, what I told them about recording 3 of the dates in my journal and what I described what happened, the room it happened in and details of what t he colour of the bedding was.

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