'Move home'

[Wannafly]

Hey mumsnetters, regular poster here just name changed for a bit of advice. Feel like I'm in the jaws of doom atm. I'll try say it all so as not to drip feed.

I've been in my current city for a decade. I love the anonymity of city living. But, I've not really got anywhere. A series of dead end jobs and tbh if I look back over my time here, it hasn't really been good to me. I'm thinking to sell up and move.

I'm about 5 hours from my elderly parents atm and they have always been keen for me to move closer.
But I don't want to move back to my home town or surrounding areas. It would feel like... moving back to the person I was, having accomplished nothing.

However, there is a very, very small city nearby that might be a compromise and I did mention that I could possibly consider it short term. Whilst I figure out where else I want to go. But now they seem super excited and encouraging me to look at property to buy that way.

I know that if I move back, that'll probably be it for me. There, forever.

My dad is telling me that the job market is better there, less competition. But the thing is, here I don't care what I do, so long as it pays. There, I'd be worried I'd bump into someone I knew...

And realistically, I think I need to go back to uni/college. There's more choice for that here or in other large cities. Plus I dont think I'd want to join tinder ect in a location where all my old school...aquaintences...might be.

Tbh, i want to do some travelling. But with covid it looks like that might not be happening for a while.

And today - My dad has just hit me with the offer to buy me a place there because he worries that 'otherwise the money will just end up going on a care home for him or mum, should they take ill' And now instead of a possible choice...it is staring to feel like an obligation.

I really don't know what to do :/
I'm aware that my parents arent getting any younger too and as an only child, I may someday have to care for them. And perhaps dating back home would be easier as in smaller town living, ppl are less likely to be constantly looking for the 'bigger better' ?

Anyone else move back home-direction? Do you regret doing so?

So you’ve faffed about for years and had a good time doing what you wanted and now you are embarrassed people will find out all you do is basic work and your dad will give you a hard time.

You can’t have it both ways. This is the price you are paying now for your skipping from job to job time before.

If you’ve got a degree could you become a teacher? Or even a lecturer at college? Perhaps in a field you like? Even if you did it part time it would pay the bills and leave you lots of time during school holidays to faff about and travel, while your dad would be quite pleased you have a ‘steady’ job? I think it’s just a year of study to be qualified as you have a degree.

Or what about starting your own business at something you have experience of. A cleaning company perhaps? If the area you could move to is affluent you could get a good hourly rate?

Or dog walkers for all the arseholes that bought dogs during covid with no thought as to what would happen when offices etc open again and poochy is pissy all over the floor as it can’t hold it’s bladder for ten hours a day (poor things).

Don't do what your parents want, do what you want. Do not assume you will end up looking after them. You are independent, stay that way.
As to deciding what you want, that's tough but my favourite amongst those here is save really hard for a year then travel then get into a real job/career.. You won't enjoy flitting between minimum wage jobs in your 40s.

OP - HR is competitive to get into at entry level and you will likely need to be willing to do an entry level CiPD qualification which will take a year to be considered for admin HR positions.