I've been trying to come to terms with some very abusive things that have happened to me and formed a pattern through my life of abusive relationships, addiction, self-harm etc.
I've used these boards under different names and that has helped a lot. Still, there is a huge focus on identifying abuse and then not much after that other than, go to therapy.
I was wondering if people here could give me some ideas they gleaned from therapy? My DP has done this for me and tbh I found the advice much more useful when sort of filtered through his mind in a way.
I have been to therapy three times in my life and never really got all that far with it.
I'm also not keen to keep rehashing the worst experiences of my life with strangers for no reason.
I have a friend who suffered a horrible trauma and over the years of knowing him I have seen him relive and rehash this event so many times and it has not done him any good tbh. I totally get that burying it and never dealing with it would be bad too, obviously. But if you've been abused what advice can anyone, professional or not really give you?
For example, I am an alcoholic and self medicate with drinking. So clearly digging out that psychological illness and no longer needing to medicate it would be an aim. But...is that actually going to happen? How will it happen?
I know people say "shop around and give it time with each person". I am just wary of the emotional and financial impact of going through all that potentially over and over again. I am not doing very well really and although I need to take some action I don;t want to embark on something that's sort of doomed before I start.