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Need to leave but how

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whatnowforme · 25/03/2021 17:37

Hi, first time poster here so please bear with me.
I need to leave my husband. We are trying to recover after his affair but I've just discovered he's texting her again alot after only last week promising me and convincing me that he would tell me if she text and he would not respond. I'm truly heartbroken as I know he can't be trusted anymore. I don't want a divorce but I think that's the only option as surely if he really loved me she would be gone.

But I need advice on how to get all my ducks in a row first. I've always worked and have a job that pays reasonably OK I guess but we've always shared our money. I can't afford the rent on my house on my own but I would like to stay if possible. As I work (full time) I assume I wouldn't be entitled to any help even as a single mum. We have 3 teenage children. But I need to do something.

I'd be grateful for any constructive and helpful advice I can get on how to start the ball rolling. Having been with him since I was 17 and now in my mid 40s I don't know how to be on my own. I feel stupid even saying that, but it's true. Thank you.

OP posts:
Time4change2018 · 25/03/2021 17:42

Get yourself on entilitedto. It's a website you can input your earnings / situation and see if you'd be entitled to and benefits.
Also look on CMS for an idea of child maintenance you'd get if you know his earnings

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