husband left well sort of .

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my friend (52, 3c 24,20 & 18 -at uni . nearly two years ago dh left to go in B&b , now staying some nights in spare room , because its convinient and he still ' likes her company'. says he doesn't want divorce but doesn't want relationship or hassle of home life anymore. Friend should throw him out but is scared of being on own and worried about what her future is re money house ect . not what she had planned and is very hurt. I could write a book on the topic over the last few years but what should she do ?anyone in similar position advice needed .

Horrid situation for her, I am sure loads of us have stuck with the devil we know for fear of the alternative. What exactly is the problem? Is she basically happy with the setup, in which case she should stick with it however weird it seems to us, or is she unhappy but scared? She can take a quick trip to a solicitor (or bookshop or CAB) to get an idea of her legal/financial rights. She may just not be ready to make the break right now.

Whatever it is, she needs to do it in her own time and on her own terms. She can't be coerced into it.

certainly unhappy but scared .solicitors say she would get at least 50% but would mean giving up big house . just being supportive and letting her talk is probably all i can do. thanks