I'll try and keep this short. DP and I have an 8 month old baby. We bought a house in October. I left in December because our relationship was absolutely toxic. Screaming rows, no support for the baby, he was being controlling and totally inconsiderate on all levels.
He's been asking me to come home the last 3 months to try and make it work, I wanted to see if it would work from a distance. We constantly argued. He did nothing at a distance to show his behaviour would be different.
We've now got an offer on our house of £50k over what we bought it for. Enough money to repay the huge mortgage redemption charge and repay our original and subsequent move expenses. We own it 50/50 and aren't married. This would leave us back where we started ie no loss to either of us.
He is asking me to come home and give it a go, and potentially lose this buyer (we got this buyer without the house even being on the market - chain free buyer).
His efforts from a distance to show he cares / that anything has changed has been largely minimal. No Xmas present, no valentines, just arguments really.
So now we're at last chance saloon, do I come back and try and make it work at the risk of losing the buyer? Or just say it's too late?
I thought I was ready to let it all go but I'm worried I'll regret it for our DD. She's so young and I feel guilty she will have a split home.
Not sure it matters but friends and family are all saying to sell and let it go. They think he will never change and just wants me home for convenience. I'm the main breadwinner and he wouldn't be able to buy himself anything great if we split. My concern is I go back and we're another year down... we've already been arguing since I feel pregnant and it's not really ever got better, probably worse. When I left I felt I was on the verge of a breakdown; picked to pieces, did the move myself, all baby care, all nights, housework, dinners to be told nothing I did was enough. I'm not sure it can work but am so concerned of leaving if it could have...