I think I need to leave

[Mamacitaa]

Hello, I'm hoping someone can give me some advice on how I can leave my emotionally and financially abusive partner. We have been together for 10 years and have 2 small children together. Prior to having kids, I was very independent and had a good stable job.

Long story short our relationship has drastically changed after kids. He is very selfish and I think he is a narcissist. I don't want to go into detail into how he is but I know in my heart I now need to leave as it's not healthy for me or the children. It actually made me ill at one point.

Please can someone advise what my options are or where can I start? I don't really have any close friends and my family all live abroad ( very lonely life)... I'm a full time mum and we currently rent...
thank you.

I would start with the citizen's advice bureau. They can help to signpost you to different agencies in your area which can help you. Sorry you're going through this, but making a rational decision about the situation and to ask for help is a huge step. Congratulations on doing so, I do hope you find the strength and support to start again.

Are you married? Whose name is on the lease?

Bump. Didn’t want to read and run. Hope some others can give some support.

Are you in danger?
Women's charities and shelters are a good starting point if you are.

Try and find a local solicitor who might offer a half hour free advice session to go through your options...

Local domestic abuse organisation - women’s aid can help with that
The local organisation will have good legal links with solicitors who are adept in DA

Are you both on the tenancy?
How old are the kids?

Thank you so much for your support. It’s very scary... especially as I have nothing

Hello @Aquamarine1029 we are not married and both our names are on the tenancy.

@Happierwithouthim

Are you in danger? Women's charities and shelters are a good starting point if you are.

I’m not in danger thankfully.

@Cleverpolly3 Hello, we are both on tenancy and kids are both under 5.

Lots of women think they are not in danger, until something happens to them.