My husband gives me bruises in his sleep.

[Misssweetheart]

So i gave birth to my son 7 months ago. And despite my warnings my husband would SOMETIMES sleep with my son in the bed with us BUT ONLY FOR AN HOUR OR TWO A WEEK.
I warned him about babies rolling out the bed in the middle of the night,which has sparked this worrying behaviour;

Im now pregnant again and over the last 4 months, my husband has grabbed my leg, arm or chest in his sleep and pulled with all his strength 4 times!!! He does this when i turn over in bed
He has sometimes caused serious bruising and even though im screaming, he wont stop.

When he comes too - he apologises repeatedly and claims he thinks im our son rolling out the bed and hes trying to save him. My screams; he interprets as my pleas for him to save our son.

Our son doesnt even sleep in the bed anymore.

My husband worships the ground i walk on and is the most calm, understanding man. But im getting tired of getting grabbed, twisted and fighting him till he lets go. Any advice. I dont want us to sleep in different rooms but is there a cure?
Xx

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Are you keeping count of all the anti female comments literally EVERYWHERE else?

OP, what’s he suggested? Has he booked a doctors appointment?

That's interesting op. I had to stop falling asleep with my young baby on my chest (sometimes happened while bfing) as when she got bigger and heavier I'd dream I was being attacked and shove her off me. Can you swap positions in bed or move the bed so it's against a wall temporarily? The feel of a wall might stop him dreaming about falling. You could also, even if son not in your bed anymore, put a spare mattress on the ground or put up a guard rail, just until it penetrates his subconscious that the danger isn't there anymore.

I have this, since i had kids I had constant dreams that they were in bed with me and had rolled out etc. I think its natures way of trying to make sure you dont sleep too soundly to hear them in the night etc. I periodically shake my husband awake to ask him where the baby is or sometimes I think he is the baby. Oddly it has never ever happened when I've actually slept with either baby. I've never thought of discussing it with the doctor. The only solution I'd have thought is to sleep separately.
It has got gradually better as they have got older. My youngest is 3 and I'd say I've only done it twice in the last 6 months whereas before it was once a week or so

Has he seen his GP about his nocturnal behaviour? It sounds like he could be sleep walking. Either way he needs to see his GP.

Absolutely do not share a bed with him. You will need to have separate beds/bedrooms.

He’s not safe to share a bed with - it doesn’t matter that he can’t help it/isn’t conscious at the time.

Doesn’t mean he’s a bad man, nor that he has any ill will toward you. Doesn’t mean you can’t have a good marriage. You just can’t sleep in the same bed.

Oh and he should definitely see his GP.

Sorry - just coming to this - but wouldn't it be an immediate trip to the GP? Night terrors or involuntary behaviour while asleep - a type of sleep-walking (sleep-grabbing).

The poor guy. I'm sorry but I'd be don't worry darling and down the GP. How could one not love him for something horrid like this happening? The fact that he is so lovely when not asleep makes it even worse.

Horrid for you, tricky, OP, but also so awful for him. Get some help.