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I need advice.. first time post for a mum who just doesn't know what to do.

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mumtotwogirls25 · 21/03/2021 16:17

I am a 26 year old mum with two girls from a previous relationship, I am with my partner of now 6 years, we are engaged and he has a teenage daughter. As you can imagine that on its own has had its own battles.
When we first got together things were tough I came from a DV relationship and basically came into the relationship with nothing but a baby under 1 and a 3 year old. He was great. He is a provider. We want for nothing and my life would be nothing without him. I have a house I could only imagine the home I'm living in now years ago and my girls are living in a stable home which is great...
But I am not happy. We aren't the same anymore. I've tried everything. From dates. To plans. To tag teaming all the chores of a family of five everything. He doesn't even entertain the idea of doing anything as a family anymore. He just sits on his computer does nothing i do EVERYTHING. It's not like it's a surprise to him that I feel this way I've told him. I've cried and told him I'm not happy many times and he said he'll help he will be more involved and he just isn't.
I feel so selfish as my children are so happy here but for the past year and a half I have been utterly miserable my brain is unbearable to live with. I want to leave I've decided. I'll leave with nothing and we will need to start fresh. I will be happier. But I feel so sad for my children for the life they have now I won't be able to give them if I leave.
Please help any advice would be great

OP posts:
BrightYellowDaffodil · 21/03/2021 16:37

I should imagine living with a happier mother and in a happier environment will be a better life for your children - a different life doesn’t mean a worse one Flowers

Nanny0gg · 21/03/2021 16:40

What are your options if you split?

pog100 · 21/03/2021 16:43

Ultimately, and I mean it might actually be when your kids are 30 and fully understand, everyone will be happier if you are happy. You need to split, no question.

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