Online dating as a distraction?

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I'm going through a divorce, can't stand my STBXH but still living together while waiting on paperwork. Have been separated for over a year and we haven't had sex or being intimate in any way for over 5 years. I really miss that feeling and whilst I'm not looking for a serious relationship anytime soon, I miss feel cared for...

I have a crush on a close friend and we made out once a few weeks ago but since then not again; we both have personal issues we have to deal with and so agreed to stay just friends at least for now. I do have a huge crush and think about him all the time, so I'm looking for a distraction!

Is it a crazy idea to sign up to online dating sites just as a distraction? I never used it and have no clue what to expect.

You will get a huge amount of blokes, many of them married, who are just looking for a bunk-up.

If you're after casual sex, go for it. But be honest about your situation and that you're not looking for anything serious. Don't mislead anyone.

My experience of online dating hasn't involved married men looking for bunk ups. Generally there's quite a bit of chat without it leading anywhere so I would say that's a perfect distraction.

I really miss that feeling and whilst I'm not looking for a serious relationship anytime soon, I miss feel cared for...

OLD may bring you many things, but 'feeling cared for' will not be one of them.

Yes I guess you are right - I miss feeling cared for but probably not the best choice of words with online dating :D

I guess I'm trying to find a balance between having someone to distract me without getting too emotionally involved.

It's a good distraction if you are honest that you are not relationship material right now.

Speaking as someone who does online dating, I think many men are using it as a distraction/ an option but will speak to you as if they know what they want and they're ready for that.... don't do that to someone.

It could be a great distraction.

There are a lot of people who are just wanting to find people to chat to. Just make it clear that you're only looking for a friendship in your profile.

You just need to be honest that you’re not looking for a serious relationship, so no-one is misled. Otherwise, why not?

Thank you for your comments, it is very helpful.

Definitely going to be honest and agree it would be awful to mislead anyone.

Hopefully it will go well :)