Partner gave my key back during an argument

[kelzgel]

We were disagreeing on a serious issue and DP was being really stubborn. DP began to tone police and this wound me up further so I asked them to leave as I was red hot and didn't want to blow.

This pissed DP off so they decided to throw down a key I'd given them before they left. I didn't ask for this and wouldn't have...

We weren't breaking up - this was clear, so I'm just confused/hurt that they gave my key back.

They've apologised but I'm still confused/hurt/in shock at the key being returned.

I think I'd be keeping my key and glad that said spewer of misogynistic nonsense was no longer in my life, if I'm honest.

He's apologised but if it's something he does consistently then it's what he believes and you're not going to change that.

Returning the key wasn’t about breaking up, it was about planting a seed for future arguments. The next time he polices your tone, the seed will have grown enough to get you to STFU out of fear of breaking up.

The next time he tries it, don’t give him the key back.

Well he obviously had lost his temper because leaving the key was spiteful and a power play.

Does he do this a lot if you raise something with him? Addressing your tone and not the words?