No contact with ex but we have dc

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How do you go no contact with an ex husband when you have a dc together? We can't be in the same room together, email without receiving abuse, and pick up and drops are awful! I feel it's doing more damage to my dc witnessing this but I don't want to drop access either. What do I do? Has anyone been in this situation and have any helpful advise please

Engage a 3rd party to filter email messages...they only pass on what is absolutely relevant and necessary. Can drop offs/pick ups be done via a relative or friend!

I made use of school/school clubs during term time...meant for little/no contact with x.

Yes, I’m nc with ex but he doesn’t see the children (his choice) so problem solved! you either need to do 3rd party hand overs, or pick up from school On Friday then drop back to school on Monday

Thank you both for your reply I've thought about a third party but the only one who can do this is his mother and she doesn't want to be involved. The baby is too young for school and if we did pick up at her nursery he finishes work after the nursery closes. I just can't put up with how vile is to me anymore and the reason I ended the marriage but I haven't gotten away from it :(

Sorry I assumed children were older, that would be my ideal really, picked up from school on Friday returned to school on Monday and never having to see my ex again! No friends he he could pick up front instead? Failing that pick ups at a car park in a public place like supermarket or outside a police station is the only other option I can think of

@Givemeabreak88 that's a really good idea, I hadn't thought of that thank you. Yes will be much easier when she is in school he can drop off pick up and I will have no contact, just another year to go. But hopefully things may have settled a bit by then. Thank you

Keep the kids, let him take you to court

You can't have them witness the abuse, it's not good for them

He's abusing them, he's abusing you

@LaurieFairyCake that's what I have been thinking tbh I left him so the dc wouldn't have to see/hear it and feel like I just can't get away from it. I might try the public place pick up drop off and see how that goes