Does this warrent this reaction

[Mummywith2]

Oh went for a takeaway
Girl missed something off the order
He said “she was dosy”
I said “ah well she was probably new”
Oh said “fuck off skank” to me
He thought id said “it was because it was you”...
He apologised then when i told him what id said but its pissed me off anyway
Am i over reacting

You must know it’s not normal or okay.

No your not. This normal in your relationship? Do you both swear at each other?

Absolutely not warranted. What a way to speak to the person you love.

I'd say no,it's an aggressive over reaction.
How long have you been together and how often do they over
react and say something aggressive or upsetting?

Really?? 🙄

I don’t usually swear we’ll especially not at others

16 years

You're a mum of two kids ? Poor them if that's how he usually speaks to you..or them

Excuse me? My husband's life wouldn't be worth living if he ever spoke to me like that, and he never has in almost 25 years. Completely unacceptable.

The thing is he thinks its funny because its off a film 😏

How often does this happen?
Is there anything you know of which would put your OH under stress right now?

I'm asking as 16 years is a long enough time to know someone pretty well,so I'm wondering if there's a back story and if this is characteristic of them or not?

Oh dear, you see, here is a man with no manners or decorum or sense of respect for other people. He's a bit of an embarrassment really, let's hope he still has some capacity to be a decent human after some teaching - though after all this time, don't hold your breath.
Also, is he always so defensive and assuming he's being attacked by you? He didn't hear you properly, so his brain filled in the gaps and put a negative spin on what you said, almost like he's expecting that that is the kind of thing you would say to him. Either you both have a tendency to blame each other or he a glass half empty person who expects to be blamed for things in life.

Yes @Opentooffers he always assumes im going to say something horrible even tho i never do

@Mummywith2

Yes *@Opentooffers* he always assumes im going to say something horrible even tho i never do

Well this itself is pretty awful isn't it? Even without the specific example which doesn't exactly cover him in glory.

You have two kids and your partner always assumes you're against him.

You're with someone who assumes the worst of you. That can't be a nice way to live and can't be a healthy relationship dynamic to model to your kids.
So what is he? Weed smoker / paranoid / unhealthy/ plain old fashioned dickhead.

One or all of the above, I would guess?