Dh is suicidal

[sauzen]

I've nced for this as I don't want this to be linked with my previous posts

Me and my dh have 2 ds's (3 and 18 months). When I was near the end of my pregnancy with ds2 my dh struggled a lot with his mental health and he was suicidal, wasn't eating much or helping with ds1. I persuaded him to get help and he did and then after a while his mental health improved. His parents and other family members accused him of making it up.

Recently he hasn't been himself he's been shouting at ds1, and he's not really been helping with dc's and he's been quiet.

This afternoon he told me he needed to talk to me when DS's were in bed. And his just told me he's suicidal but he doesn't want to talk to anyone and that he'll be ok. I don't want to push him so I really don't know what to do

Have you called the crisis team?

He really needs to speak to his GP on Monday.
If he can't wait till Monday Mind do text support.

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helplines/out-of-hours-support/

Another vote for the crisis team too

Don’t hesitate to cal an ambulance if you think he is in danger of harming himself.

There are lots of groups and he could text shout if he doesn’t want to talk giveusashout.org/

It’s so good that he’s told you.
If he can’t stay safe until Monday then he needs to contact crisis team or go to a and e.
Has he suddenly stopped anti depressants OP?

Sorry you’re both having a hard time. Does he plan to act on the suicidal ideation?
It’s possible to have suicidal ideation without intent or a plan. He may experience pervasive thoughts/feelings and overwhelming sadness but not actually undertake suicide

If he’s under a Mental health team call the crisis team
Call out of hours gp for advice and signpost to services
Google psychiatric liaison (it may have relocated because of covid) and take him for an assessment

He told me he had suicidal thoughts but he wasn't going to do anything. His hours at work have been cut down due to Covid so I think he's stressed about that

Get him to call the MH team, get a review, consider medication changes
And yes it’s a dreadful stressful time. Probably no immediate answers or changes
Wishing you both well at such a difficult time

It is great that he told you - that is a really helpful sign. As is his statement he isnt going to do anything. There is a continuum of suicidal thinking from 'I wish I was not here' to 'I need to kill myself now' and it is really helpful for him to have a plan if it goes from passive thoughts to more active planning. When it gets to that stage it is crisis team, A&E or 999. Most counties have also set up an emergency mental health support line so it would be useful to get hold of that - the people on the other end are all professionals and a great resource if he is having a hard time. They are usually 24/7 too so helpful if it is all piling up on him in the middle of the night. Getting back in touch with his GP would be useful, and perhaps referral for mental health support - although there is not a lot of face to face on offer at the moment, he could perhaps do some phone work. I know a lot of people dont like the idea, but it is turning out to be surprisingly effective during lock down.

Are you able to access support OP? It's a very difficult and stressful time for you, do seek out counselling for yourself if you can and ask anyone around you for practical and emotional help

Having been to two suicide funerals in the past year where both underplayed the seriousness of how they were feeling in the final few weeks I would contact the crisis team.

How are you doing @sauzen? Thinking of you at this super stressful time.

I hope you can contact the gp or crisis team and get some support.

How are things going @sauzen? Sending you in these stressful times.