Husband previously downloaded tinder

[Fingersthroughthesand]

I suspect my husband to be cheating (he has cheated on me before but I chose to forgive him).

I did some snooping (I know I shouldn’t have but I did), I checked his previously downloaded apps and found he has downloaded tinder in the past. I checked this on his tablet, it’s not on his tablet now, and I don’t know if it’s on his phone so will need to check that when he comes home from work. I have a feeling it won’t be on his phone as he isn’t secretive with his phone.

I’m not sure what to do. I tried to make a fake tinder account myself but it was asking for photographs etc and I didn’t want to put my photos up, I tried to make a fake Facebook profile but I can’t seem to make that work either.

What would you do if it’s not on his tablet and it on his phone and it just shows it as a previously deleted app? Could he even make up a fake name on tinder? Our son is in tinder for goodness sake, would my son know he was on there? I’m not sure how all this works?

You are going to a lot of trouble to find someone who may or may not be on Tinder. You said he cheated before. Was that through dating apps? How do you know this previously downloaded app wasn't from that time?
What will you do if you see him on Tinder?

Could the tinder app be from his previous activity. The cloud thing will always be there regardless of time if he's using this Apple ID he had last time he cheated

Hoe long have you been together. Tinder has been around a long time.

Also, I have tinder on my phone and am happily married. As far as tinder is concerned I am a man and so I use it to occasionally see which women in our area has signed up and to look at their photos and profiles.

Its sad but it kills a few minutes every now and then and gives me a giggle. No harm done

Thanks everyone, we have been married for 30 years, he cheated on me 15 years ago so Tinder isn’t from that time. He previously cheated with a work colleague. I think he is cheating on me with another work colleague.

I'm not surprised you don't trust him, you could set up a scenic photo or no photo I think just to browse? Your son wouldn't see him if they're looking for women, you can put the profile in and out of sleep so he may only be visible when he's actively looking. I think the best thing to do is talk about your insecurities with him and what is best for you here, can you really be happy without trust.

If you have good access to his tablet then just open the app on there. It should be accessible if he just deletes it from his phone & tablet each time. I have an app on my phone I delete then 'open' when I want to use it.

You can't look at other men if your straight. If the above idea doesn't work then just take a photo from the web. I think you know him so it sounds like something is alerting you to something.

Thank you. I will try to open the app, it will need to be re downloaded and I'm not sure if it will send him an alert on his phone?

I will probably need to guess his password though

I tried to see if there was a way I could find out when the app was downloaded/deleted but I cant

Maybe he set up a fake tinder to see if you were on there?

You have obviously downloaded tinder to set up a fake account. What if he checks your apps and finds you have downloaded tinder too? Maybe he downloaded it to check on you.

@ButtonMoony

Hoe long have you been together. Tinder has been around a long time.

Also, I have tinder on my phone and am happily married. As far as tinder is concerned I am a man and so I use it to occasionally see which women in our area has signed up and to look at their photos and profiles.

Its sad but it kills a few minutes every now and then and gives me a giggle. No harm done

Blimey you sound like a creep.

A friend downloaded something called cheat buster when she had suspicions because of her partner having a new FB account (or similar) and found details of her partner using tinder, it’s not free but it did workand show when and where he’d used it. I imagine you have to know the name they’d use or something.

Thanks everyone, ittakes2 I’ve deleted the app so there is no trace of it on my phone. If he checks he won’t know I’ve downloaded it.

@ButtonMoony Apologies, I thought you said you were a man.

@ButtonMoony

Hoe long have you been together. Tinder has been around a long time.

Also, I have tinder on my phone and am happily married. As far as tinder is concerned I am a man and so I use it to occasionally see which women in our area has signed up and to look at their photos and profiles.

Its sad but it kills a few minutes every now and then and gives me a giggle. No harm done

Not that happily married enough to stop being a total creep. Full body cringed at you using it to look at local single women for 'a giggle' as if women exist for men's entertainment. Really weird.

I missed that @ButtonMoony is a woman too but still think it's a really creepy and weird to do!

OP do you often check his devices and stuff? Perhaps you're subconsciously just waiting for a good enough reason to leave. Evidence of him doing something wrong.

But you don't have to wait for reasons or evidence. The fact that you feel on edge or don't trust that he won't cheat and you aren't happy living like that is enough.

And I know it's hard. I have been there myself. Just waiting for proof of a good enough reason to call it a day.

@Fingersthroughthesand

Thank you. I will try to open the app, it will need to be re downloaded and I'm not sure if it will send him an alert on his phone?

I will probably need to guess his password though

If it's being used but deleted from his devices it should just say Open on App Store. You have to be on his Apple ID though.