I got involved in a relationship with a very convincing man for a few months. He did the lot. Gifts. Love you. Planned a future. Was there constantly. Always calling. I felt we had this solid connection.
Then red flags started. Was soon clear he was lying about his ex. They were still in touch after two years of being seperated. Her pictures everywhere. He'd bring up the past and moan about stuff she had done. Said she was as much to blame as him for the split. Told me she choose her friends over him and went away without him alot etc etc. I was up and down thinking is he really over her as they also still have contact. Although I was never sure how often and feel he was lying anyway.
A minor thing made him blow off at me just over a week ago. He completely dropped me overnight and has not made any attempt to talk. Although he was rude the other day when I asked if he was ok. I've accepted it's over.
Since then another women he told me was his stalker has been in touch. We've exchanged stories. It turns out he has been in contact with us both the whole time. Lying. She didn't know about me. But I knew about her as he told me he had had a one night stand with her two years ago after his ex ended things. It's turned out now he cheated on his ex with her too. He was with this women for four months and then dumped her. Since then he's been on and off in touch over the last two years. Telling her he loves her and one day they will be together.
But what's made my stomach flip is he has used the exact script on me that he used on her. Every single word, saying, song and plan. He's not created anything different and has been dragging us both along.
I am done with him. The man's damaged. It's hitting me now he wanted to change me. He wanted me to have my hair in a ponytail and have a tan. That's how his ex was. He made out he was obsessed with my feet and i was the first time he had noticed someone's feet. But his weird foot fetish was also with the other women too.
Now yes I know he's played us both. He's very capable of lying and knows how to make you feel loved and special. But I want to understand how someone can be so mentally ill and weird. He's 48. Obsessed with his ex still. Made out he isn't. So he's had two women in the background whilst still being emotionally attached to his ex.
I feel sick knowing what a horrible game he has brought me into. How am earth can someone stick to a script that he gives to every women he charms. I honestly do not understand this level of lies and control.