OK, so DD is now 10 yrs and going to bed later (about 8.30pm). DH arrives home about 7.15pm so we eat then and then it's a bit hectic eating, clearing up then getting DD into bed - she still enjoys stories 
. There's always practical stuff me and DH need to talk about or things we can't talk about in front of DD. There's 2 issues, the little bit of time we have before going to bed at 10pm as we're shattered seems to get eaten up by boring stuff so we never get time for anything 'fun'. Sometimes we might get to watch an episode of a box set but that's not very often and more likely at the weekend. The second issue is I think the lack of connection beyond the practical and mundane means that being intimate with each other has dwindled a bit and it's making us both fed up. I thought as DD got older we might be less tired in the evenings but that was clearly false hope!! Any tips for how others manage to emotionally and physically connect as a couple in the evenings would be appreciated!