Pregnant and he's making excuses not to talk about it

[urusiyam]

I've namechanged for this but I need advice

I found out I was pregnant on Sunday (was unexpected) I've been trying to speak to partner but he keeps making excuses on Monday and Tuesday it was that he was tired from work. Yesterday he was off work as he doesn't work Wednesdays but he said he wanted to spend time with his younger brother as he was upset as his dog passed away. I spoke to him last night and he said I was being insensitive

He's at work again today and I know later he will say he's 'tired'. But I feel like he's avoiding the conversation

Any advice will be appreciated

His silence speaks volumes and you need to decide what you want to do.

Whether you can talk to him or not, it would be worth finding someone else to talk to about it, to get some support/comfort and some new ideas, even if you don't follow their advice.

From his poor form, unless he manages a huge U-turn, it sounds like you'd be going it alone, more or less. Even if he starts talking now, this has already shown you that when you need him most, he is not there. If you stay together you might well have a long future of being repeatedly let down.

Never mind him, lovely, what do YOU want? Are you happy, or is this a problem and you need his support in deciding whether or not to terminate?

OP - you’ve been together since you were children (teenagers, but same thing really).
And you both are barely adults now.
So - it’s understandable he isn’t thrilled about the developments as most people won’t chose to have kids in early 20s.
There is so much life to live yet before one has to settle down.
So - think first about whether you want to have this child by yourself and how it fits into your life plan.

It's understandable that he's not thrilled, but as usual, here we have the woman thinking, planning and facing facts, and the man is excused because it is so hard for him, poor thing?

Stop saying 'I want to talk about this' and say 'When would you like to talk about this?'

Put the onus on him to set a day and a time.

Although I think it's clear by his avoidance what's going on.

@ravenmum

It's understandable that he's not thrilled, but as usual, here we have the woman thinking, planning and facing facts, and the man is excused because it is so hard for him, poor thing?

God Raven this is often so true. Why do some blokes turn out like this, pandered to by their mums their whole lives? Big emotions are just too much for men like this to handle healthily, we must excuse them for it, and of course take it all on ourselves! On top of the original problem, we’ve got to try to plicate them

Sorry not wishing to hijack the post but OP I do sympathise with you feeling vulnerable and pregnant whilst dealing with man-child behaviour