handhold please i’ve called a lawyer

[MadgeMidgerson]

i started another thread a while ago about leaving a nearly 20 year marriage - my husband and i have drifted apart, haven’t been intimate in 10 years, he contributes little financially and otherwise etc.

after a lot of thinking and dithering i realised things are not going to get better, only stay the very same, and i don’t want to live like this anymore.

i don’t hold out any great hope of finding a partner in future but being alone seems better than being terrifically lonely.

i have gotten in touch with a lawyer i spoke to over the summer to see about starting some kind of separation proceedings.

if anyone can be kind and hold my hand through this i would really appreciate it - i still feel selfish for putting myself first, and worried that i am blowing up my life.

@MadgeMidgerson you've obviously got your head screwed on! Congratulations.

someone doesn’t have to be abusive or a villain to not be right for you

Absolutely! My ex-DH was also, back then, my closest friend, whose intelligence I admired, whose sense of humour I appreciated, whose company I treasured, etc.

But unintentional damage is still damaging, and at the end of the day we can only really take care of ourselves.