So a bit of background which I will try to keep brief:
DH and i are early/mid 30s, together 10years with DD3 and DS who will be 1 in April.
I was the one who initiated the talk about trying for a baby. He agreed but initially wanted to wait a bit longer before ttc. We wanted til he was ready and luckily conceived quickly. He was more keen on ttc baby #2 than I was (I think relevant)
DH hates the baby stage. He is open with this and I can already see how much he enjoys DD comparedtowhen she was a baby, I think he will really come in to his own as the children get older. I am completely ok with this
My issue is that all he does is moan about us. Every time one of the children is challenging or needs something, he moans about how hard life is. He moans about all the things we/he could do without children or responsibilities. If I have a bad day with the kids, or even just in general, his response is "well you wanted them". This is really bringing me down now.
I've tried making jokes about it. I've tried talking about how I feel and he feels but I just end up feeling like I've ruined his life. I've told him he can leave if he is unhappy but he says he doesn't want to do that and that he does love us.
I know that he talks to other people about this. He insists most men feel this way but he's the only one open about it, but I'm just embarrassed knowing he is telling people how unhappy his life is.
So my question is, is he right? Do all men feel this way? Or women? Was I completely naive and too influenced by Disney as to how I thought it would be???