I have to go NC with an immediate relative.
It is long overdue and not a particular problem of itself. I should have done it years and years ago, for my own self respect and mental health.
The problem is that we share so many relatives.
I don't expect anyone "to choose"
My unwillingness to be around them is no one else's concern. I have younger relatives who are at "the marriage and first baby stage" so weddings and baptisms are expected there. I would not wish to hurt or insult these relatives with snubs to their events.
The bigger issue is my DM who has little respect for my privacy, and will continue to divulge my life to the person I am now NC with. And bore me about this persons life. They will also "take everything very personally" in terms of my non engagement and non attendance as if I am trying to hurt THEM rather than protect ME.
If you have been here, how did you manage such hurdles?