Who has gone through relationships and break ups with narcissistic personalities? The abuse has been more physical (albeit "mild"). But the mental abuse and control has been unbearable. He's made fun of my skin condition, called me a loser and always sought to control me. Eg he'd fire our cleaner who I paid for and tell me to clean. He'd threaten to take my and my daughter's passports away so we couldn't travel. He'd gaslight and then call me the abusive one. Video all our fights where he was calm and I was swearing at him just trying to fight back.
I'm going through a divorce but we are still living together. Grateful for emotional support as well as advice on how to handle a divorce with such a person. We have to go to court for every single little thing and he says no to everything or just doesn't reply. We have a 2.5 year old. I want her to attend a playgroup on saturdays so she can learn my mother tongue better but he will no doubt say no and off we go to court again. In Russian and he's always saying to our kid "argh these fucking Russian cartoons again - so shit.". He curses everything to do with my culture and thinks my opinions don't matter. But if I ever challenge him it's like I've stabbed him.