Relationship speed in your 30s

[brw55]

Curious to know other people’s experiences! I am mid-30’s and have recently reconnected with someone I knew years and years ago. It’s really great. The communication is so easy and it feels like we already “know” it’s going somewhere. We have had several very honest and frank conversations about the future and it’s previously taken years to get to that place when I was a bit younger. We both want a family and I wonder if that’s part of what speeds things up when you’re older. Have others felt this way/experienced this being a little older?

I think that you knew the person previously is a big help. It gives you a common ground, and a lot for catch up.

Also, as you get older and more experienced then, and know what you want, and can express yourself better, and more instantly reject things that don't align with what you want.

However, having read the wise posters on MN for many years I'd always been concerned about moving too quickly. For example, there are so many cases on MN where everything looks/feels great, then guy shags the girl (multiple times on one night typically!!), and is never seen again. Nothing wrong with that except if one of the parties is really looking for a longer term relationship.

Similar story here, at 29 I reconnected with a guy that I had known since school years. We are now both 31 and have just purchased a home and are expecting our first baby.

Relationships do seem to move faster the older you are, and especially if you knew the person before it definitely helps!

You both know what you want and what you don’t want more to the point!

I wouldn’t say rush it and it’s so important to still enjoy the time together but for me it was a case of if you know you know